The internet has slammed a husband for not helping his pregnant wife with housework and cooking after sharing her story online.
Posting to popular chat site Mumsnet on Friday, user UsernameA1B2 explained: “I’m 15 weeks pregnant with my second child. I still have a bad sickness that lasts all day. I can’t stand a lot of smells food, especially cooking smells and it can instantly make me need to run to the bathroom to be sick.”
A stay-at-home mom with a 4-year-old autistic child, she explains that before her recent pregnancy, she did all the cooking and cleaning in the house.
“My husband can’t cook anything other than frozen ready meals,” she said. “And the house is a tip right now. The living room gets covered in toys and books and gets worse until I tidy up.
“Am I unreasonable to think that it’s not that hard to cook and make something like bolognese while I’m pregnant and exhausted?”
She went on to explain that her 36-year-old husband couldn’t cook or clean, “I had to scrub the tub at 8 1/2 months pregnant. I once asked him to clean the sink and he did. wiped down with toilet paper,” she added. Explain.
Netizens were shocked by the story, overwhelmingly blaming the husband for not making the cut in the house.
“Of course he can cook and clean. Any functional adult can handle both of those things. He just won’t because it’s your job on his mind,” one Mumsnet user wrote.
“He’s an adult, not a child,” another commenter wrote, “He should be cooking his fair share of family meals whether you’re sick or not.”
Other commenters were shocked that the woman put up with him: “The more relevant question is why are you putting up with this lazy man child?” asked one Mumsnet user. While another user wrote, “It doesn’t take a lot of skill to chop vegetables in a salad. I think it’s less it can’t and more it won’t.”
A national study conducted by the Institute for Family Studies found that married couples are more likely to argue about chores and responsibilities around the home. Nearly half of couples with kindergarten-aged children said they argued “often” or “sometimes” over household chores.
Couples who argued over household chores were less likely to be happy in their relationship. Of those who said they ‘often’ argued about household chores, only 47% said their relationship was ‘very happy’, while among couples who said they rarely or never argued about household chores, 83% said they were very happy in their relationship.
“Your husband really needs to step in here,” wrote one Mumsnet user: “He’s definitely going to have to take over the reins with the 4-year-old when your baby arrives.”
But one user suggested the wife give her husband some respite and wrote, “I think your husband could be nicer and do more chores, however, there’s nothing wrong with having easy ready meals or frozen foods during this time.”
In March, the internet backed a mom-to-be who refused to have her husband in the delivery room after being “mean and distant” during her pregnancy.