Top domestic conflicts couples have – from chores to what to watch on TV


Other feuds to make the top 30 list include not dusting properly, leaving crumbs in the bed, and who gets to clean the floor.

The time they spend on their phones, letting the trays soak for hours before washing them, and not taking out the trash also appears among the top rows.

But the study, commissioned by Method, found it wasn’t always about minor disagreements – 59% admitting that domestic disputes can lead to a complete breakdown in the relationship.

And two in five (39%) believe most of their arguments stem from a disagreement over cleaning or household chores – 13% arguing about it daily.

It also emerged that gender stereotypes are far from a thing of the past, as more than half of women (54%) believe they still do the lion’s share of household chores.

A spokesperson for the cleaning brand said: “We’re on a mission to challenge cleaning stereotypes and make the world a more fun, fabulous and inclusive place.

“It is shocking that in 2022 we are still seeing such disparities in how cleaning and household chores are shared.”

To help quell the controversy, and mark the launch of its new multi-surface cleaner concentrate, method has worked with the legal department, Lawrence Stephens, to launch the “Clean up before the wedding”.

Made in Chelsea Maeva D’Ascanio and James Taylor signed the first deal, chaired by lawyer and broadcaster Rob Rinder.

Raphaela Kohs, a lawyer at Lawrence Stephens, said: “Although cleaning and housework may seem like insignificant things to discuss on the surface, they represent something much bigger – inequality.

“The easiest way to solve problems and avoid conflicts is to solve these problems when you start to live together and to distribute household tasks fairly and transparently.”

The study also found that 45% of women cohabiting with a male partner said household chores were “disproportionately shared” – compared to just a third of men (34%) who said the same.

And 39% of women who say this imbalance increased during the pandemic said it hasn’t come back into balance since adjusting to life after lockdown.

But it’s not just heterosexual couples who are experiencing domestic disruption – 41% of same-sex cohabiting couples said there is also a noticeable imbalance in the distribution of their household chores.

It also emerged that half of respondents (49%) said their partner expected praise or thanks when they finally managed to complete a task.

And 17% of partners think they are offering a helping hand, while 26% think they are doing the other a “service”.

A third of couples say the situation is so extreme they would have even reconsidered moving in together if they had known how household chores would be divided.

But if 24% are frustrated by the inequality in household chores, it’s not necessarily because they don’t like cleaning.

More than four in ten (41%) said it had a positive impact on their mental health, while 42% enjoy it as a form of exercise and one in ten (11%) consider it a type of meditation .

The research, conducted via OnePoll, found that 41% are frustrated with the division of household chores because it becomes a ‘fairness’ issue.

The method spokesperson added: “Our ‘Clean Up Pre-nup’ hopes to challenge these traditional gender stereotypes while easing drudgery wars, so households – regardless of makeup – can live together in happiness and find joy in keeping their home looking and smelling great.

And Jemima Olchawski, CEO of gender equality charity the Fawcett Society, said: “We need to challenge and challenge gender norms that see women left in charge of housework – that means more of men assume their fair share.

“Whether in the workplace or at home, women bear the burden of unpaid domestic work – and this has a significant impact on the achievement of gender equality.

“A rebalancing of household chores and caregiving would unleash the potential of thousands of women.”


  1. Leave the lights on around the house
  2. Leave the toilet seat up
  3. Do not put away the dishes
  4. Starting but not finishing housework
  5. Whose turn is it to clean the floor (vacuuming, mopping, etc.)
  6. Do not scrape the shower screen after showering
  7. Leaving dirty clothes on the floor
  8. Dropping crumbs in bed
  9. Not dusting properly
  10. Don’t make the bed
  11. Do not listen
  12. Leave crumbs on the side
  13. Don’t take out the trash
  14. Leaving dirty dishes in the sink
  15. How much time they spend on the phone
  16. Allow trays to soak for hours before washing
  17. Do not load/unload the dishwasher
  18. Making plans without first checking you’re free
  19. Who prepares the evening meal
  20. What movie/series to watch
  21. How to decorate the house
  22. Don’t flush the toilet
  23. How much they listen to music
  24. Not trying hard enough with each other’s family
  25. The amount of sport they watch
  26. Inviting people without consulting you first
  27. Who is responsible for grocery shopping
  28. Having to socialize with your partner’s friends
  29. What to do with a guest bedroom
  30. How to properly manage invoices

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